Biggest Parenting Rule

Do not worry, I assure you that it will gonna be a good read.

Key points you will learn at  the end of this blog-

*What is the one most important parenting rule.

*When to apply this rule.

*How to practice.

*Why to practice.

*How to make your kid follow your instructions without yelling.

Its heart breaking when we scold our kid for xyz reasons. Not just for kids but parents also feel regretful later on.

This regret when i experienced for the very first time, made me think that.."ok there is something i am missing in my knowledge which i need to learn".

One of the biggest rule of parenting if i write in one sentence is..

"Be Friends with Your Child"

Why this is the biggest rule?...

Because it covers almost all other facts and rules.(will discuss all in upcoming blogs). If you just remember and practice this one rule:

*You will be able to save so much time and energy. 

*You will not regret about anything today or tomorrow. 

*You will naturally develop a happy kids, and happy kids are scientifically proven to be more successful in future.

Now the question arises.

When to be friends? or What is the right age?

Well be there friends as early as possible....as early as they know you are his-her parents. 

You must have noticed kids want to be with their friends day or night,wondering why???

Simply because they feel more happy and joyous when they are with their friends.They feel more accepted, more heard and more valued. they can be what they want to be ...none of there friend stops them,corrects them or judge them.

And totally opposite to this, we as parents consistently telling them what to do what not to do. We often  think that their opinion is not important and what they say dose not matters because they are just kids.

 How to be there friends?

#We need to treat them just like another human beings in the house. May be as a kids their conscious mind do not understand that their parents are not listening to his/her opinion but subconscious mind getting everything. kids when feel valued at small age proven as confident adults. So each and everything you do or you dont do matters.

 #We need to understand that our duty as a parent is just to save them from wrong outside influences. We have to take care of their physical and emotional well being till they themselves are not capable enough. Nourish and Protect them is only parents business. Give them  joyfull loving and inspiring  environment. Thats it.

#Give them your time. By time i mean quality time, not quantity time.

#Be with them...play with them like you are a kid too.

#Earn their friendship. Be the type of person they can relay on. A friend on whom they can look upto. 

#Inspire them. For example..if you watch t.v while eating food..you can not expect them to not to do that.

kids always do what you do..not what you say.

Now again one question arises.....

Is it means, we should not tell them right and wrong?

Why you need to correct them or teach them everything so early?

For survival?

what is the need of teaching them survival tactics so early? Moral teachings are not going to work but what going to really work is Exposure.

*Exposure to life the way it is. Spend time in nature ,may be without any luxury(like they have at home)

*Let them face few challenges and let their mind and body mussels develop in such a way that they will be able to handle almost all life  situations just like a game.

*Exposure to yogic practices. This will make you and your kids physically, mentally advanced and healthy.

Final question

What will happen if we be their friends?

*They will listen to you. 

*Interested to do what they should do Because nothing is getting imposed but they are getting exposed to real world.

*They will not go out to other people or global internet friends for there unanswered questions.

*They rely on you for all their queries.

*Sense of love and understanding will give them confidence to move ahead in life.

*You will have a sense of providing a well developed human beings to the world.

*No more scoldings and regrets.

*You find best of yourself in the process.

*Most important...parenting will not gonna be hectic and tough job anymore.

Few last words

Remember kids just came to life through us not for us. let them set free. And that is possible when you will be there friends not parent.

Do not consider them less intelligent just because you took birth few years before them. 

I am not a psychologist. I am a parent. Just A mother of a toddler. Along with the mother, i am a great learner too. So i have been learning about parenting continuously, not because i want to be good parent or i want my child to be extraordinary...but to explore the hidden truths behind all long time heard parenting myths.

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Kanchan Sharma

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